GOODBYE NEGATIVITY, HELLO 2017

So after celebrating the end of 2016 by watching Toddlers and Tiaras and sipping on a Malibu and Coke (or three), it's time for me to get a bit more serious and think about what I want to leave behind in 2016, and what I want to take forward in to 2017. My main focus for this year is to leave all the negative influences behind me, and make 2017 a year of personal growth and development. It's time to be a little bit selfish, and instead of doing things to make people happy, I'm going to do things that make ME happy. I feel that at the ripe old age of 29, it's about time that I focused on what is important for my little family unit, and not really care so much about what other people think. I've spent so long seeking approval from others, and in the process I have just been miserable. I've just been coasting along and feeling a bit shit really, and this year that is all going to change.

I want to share my personal growth journey on this blog, and I'm not going to be afraid to say exactly what I think, or feel. I've never really just put myself out there, as I'm naturally a private person when it comes to feelings and things happening in my private life. However, I always feel as though perhaps my own stories might help someone else if I share them. I have a few steps that I am going to take to begin this journey, and I thought I would outline them below in a few different categories. I see them kind of like new years resolutions, but ones that I know will help me develop and push me to my limits. I want to be challenged this year, and feel like I have accomplished something.



Health and Fitness

It's a bit of a cliche to start the new year with new fitness goals. Yes, I've joined a gym and plan to visit multiple times a week, but this time it is a bit different. I've committed to 12 weeks of Personal Training sessions, which means I'm putting time, effort and money in to trying to become a healthier version of myself. I don't really have the confidence to just rock up at the gym and be the fat girl on the treadmill, so by signing up to PT sessions, I have someone there supporting me and cheering me on. It's nice to have some encouragement when you don't think you are making any progress. I'd like to write posts about my journey, and I'm going to post updates here, even though it is a scary thing to show the world what you look like when you're not a size 10 model. 


Family

Family is something that stresses me out on a daily basis. I don't want to touch on it too much in this post, as it is a bit complicated and just won't fit in to a few sentences. My plan though is to take charge and to make my little immediate family my focus, and to care less about what extended family think, including my parents. I'm always caring too much about what my family think, when quite honestly their opinion is not needed or wanted, and the stress they cause me has even affected my relationship with my husband. I'm not going to let it happen in 2017. I'm taking charge and just doing everything for my daughter, husband, dog and of course, me.

Minimalism

I'm not going to get rid of everything I own, but I want to get rid of the clutter in my life. There is so much stuff that I don't need, or want, in my life, and I want to get rid of it all. I don't need the stress of having so many possessions in my life. I will be posting more about my plans and my journey through minimalism and what it means to me, so stay tuned for that. I'm going to start by doing a minimalism challenge with my husband. 

Home

I want to make our house more like a home. We have been here nearly three years and haven't really added any personal touches to it. We have begun in the last few days, and I want to continue improving the house. My first task is to finish the office so that I have a positive place to work in.

Me Time

We have no one to help us with childcare, so there isn't much time to spend just by myself. Since Elise was born, I've had one day to myself (when I went to blogfest) and the rest of the time I have been with her every day. I want to take some time out for myself! I plan to go to the gym, use my cinema pass more and pamper myself a little bit more. It's important for Elise to have time with her Daddy so I'm going to send them out the house more so that I can paint my nails, and have a baby free bath every once in a while!

Marriage/Family Time

I want to date my husband! We don't have anyone to look after our daughter for us, so we tend to take her everywhere. We really just want to eat a meal without having to look after a baby at the same time, so we've decided that we will hire a babysitter at least once a month. We already have tickets to a gig in March, so we know that we will have some time to just enjoy ourselves together. I need to spend more time with my husband. Having a one year old can be really stressful, and we find it hard not to take stress out on each other sometimes! I also want to dedicate one day a week to family time, where we go out together and experience something. It's so easy to just visit the garden centre or a coffee shop, but I want to get out there and see things. I also want to include our dog in more activities, as she loves hanging out with us.

Blog/Youtube

I want to try and set up a blog schedule, so that I can set myself targets and goals for posting. I also want to finally make some videos at some point this year. Blogging and youtube makes me so nervous, just because you are making yourself so vulnerable and open to criticism. As I said though, I'm trying to care less and make a better life for myself so I need to take the next step. My main goal is to be part of Channel Mum, as I think this would be life changing for me. I also want to blog at least three times a week, and i'm initially setting my schedule as Monday, Wednesday and Friday, and I plan to upload one video a week (starting in February) to get me started.


As you can see, I have quite a few plans for the year, and sorry that some are a bit vague. I just need to explain them more in future posts! Do you have any plans for 2017? Are you trying to be in a more positive place? I would love to see your posts, so please link them in the comments!

 Remember to always enjoy the little things, 
no matter how mundane they are...
Sarah xo

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3 comments

  1. I think these are some very achievable goals! I want to get back in the gym but I don't think Mr J will appreciate bedtime with two haha ox

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  2. What great goals you have set for yourself!! I am sure that you are going to rock them. :)

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  3. It's really hard when you don't have anyone to help out with the kids, i was the same for an awfully long time and then I made the best friend I could ever have made, she has my kids overnight so we can go out and she even says she will have them for a week so that we can go on honeymoon. She's like gold dust! Life has really changed since we started getting time for us again so i really hope that you find an angel too! Good luck with the rest of your goals! :O)

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